Ruud Baanders

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Internationally Certified NVC trainer

IFS practitioner

Certified Coach

Zen teacher

Reiki Master

In 2009 I decided to leave my corporate job in The Netherlands, with a long experience in coaching, mentoring, personal and leadership development, to move to the UK and to start my Oxford Compassion Practice. 


Nonviolent Communication (NVC) came on my path in 2006 when I met Marshall Rosenberg, developer of the NVC process. Since 2006, I have trained with many NVC trainers internationally and in 2011 I became a Certified NVC trainer with the Centre for Nonviolent Communication

I lead NVC practice groups and NVC workshops internationally (Europe, Japan, South Korea), both public workshops and in organisations. Since 2015 I have been running workshops for Buddhist groups in which I bring together my experience with NVC and Zen, deeping the spiritual journey.

In 2014, after having worked with Reiki for more than 20 years, I completed my Reiki training in with the Reiki Master/Teacher-level training with Cory Croyman at the Asian Healing Arts Centein Chiang Mai, Thailand. I have a Reiki practice and run Reiki courses in Oxford.


In 2015, after 25 year of Ch’an (Chinese Zen) practice, I have been authorised by Ton Lathouwers, Dharma Successor of Jinarakkhita Ashin (Teh Ching), as zen teacher in the Maha Karuna Ch’an Sangha. 

Other spiritual teachers on my path have been Thich Nhat Hanh, Ama Sami, Amma and


<- Bernie Glassman 2012


Sri Sri Ravi Shankar (Art of Living) in 2008 ->

In 2018, I was introduced 
into Internal Family Systems (IFS) in an 8-day retreat with its founder Richard Schwartz  and since than I continue to feel deeply inspired by his work. 
In 20219 I attended a one-year training online with Richard Schwartz, Tony Herbine-Blank  and Pam Krause.
In 2020, I completed  the intensive Level 1 IFS training
with Paul Ginter and Einat Bronstein.

In 2021, I completed IFS deepening trainings with: 

  • Einat Bronstein - Legacy Burdens 
  • Susan Mcconnell - Somatic IFS
  • Jeanne Catanzaro - Using IFS to Heal Parts Who Focus on Food and the Body

IFS represents a new synthesis of two already-existing paradigms: systems thinking and the multiplicity of the mind. It is my experience in studying and working with IFS over the last year with clietns in workshops, that it is very complementary to NVC and supports me also in working with NVC form a spiritual place. The beginning of a new journey! 

I live in Oxford (UK) with Bridget Belgrave, my wife and associate.  


Ruud playing a hokyoku piece “Tamuke” on shakuhachi (Japanese bamboo flute)  during a Bearing Witness retreat with the Zen Peacemakers on the island of Lampedusa.